Pain Is Real

Went from stone to stone, house to house, heart to heart looking for an answer and this is what I found:

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When you  are sad and lonely, and laughter seems to drive you insane; when your car radio seems to have it out for you, only playing cheesy love songs that no one who has actually ever been in love can even relate to; when it seems like your whole life has just been one big joke, just remember it really will be okay.

I know that people always say, "well, it could be worse," or "well, there are people out there who have it worse than you, no food, no running water, no indoor plumbing," or even worse, "come back to me when you have a real problem." After statments like these, many of us will automatically shut down, take our pain and devalue it, deny it, and even worse, become ashamed of it.

Do not devalue another persons pain, this is a message directly from the Source. Do not devalue your own pain.

A family may have less than you on their dinner table, but does that mean they have too little or that you have too much? An elder in you village may be very ill, but is that a curse or the cycle of life?

Do not create someone's pain, either. Do not tell them that they should be unhappy, and grieving and in mourning, if they are not.

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Your job as a soul, your job as a human, you job as a community member is to help alleviate pain, help recognize it and dismiss it.

Do not give it more power by forcing others to hide it, and do not create, imagine and produce more where it does not stand, just because for you it appears that it should be present.

Allow others to be open and honest about their pain. Do not force them to hide it. Do not force them to deny it. The deeper they burry it, the more fertile the soil becomes in those dark depths of the psyche. Do not give it power. Do not give it strength.

I want all of my children, to live a life of happiness and joy. I want all of my children to learn to adapt, to learn the difference between dark and light. I want all of my children to find peace in the face of fear, but none of that can happen without acceptance of the dark. None of that can happen with out acknowledgement of the pain. None of that can happen with out the help of peers. None of that can happen without community, patience, selflessness, and love.

Awounded knee, may be less severe than a wonded heart. The loss of a limb may be less of a handicap than the loss of a mother. And a serving of rice and beer may be more filling than a night alone in an empty apartment with no one to speak with.

Rember that it is not your job to qaulify or quanity pain, but simply to acknowledge it, accept it, believe in it, and send it on its way. You are your brother's keeper, and you are your own best friend.

Be safe, My Loves. Be safe.

Amen.

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